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Aug. 4th, 2005 02:40 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
wheelieterpSo.. Because I took a long nap today, and now cannot sleep, and because of tonight's discussion on creating diverse dungeon spaces, I was laying in bed thinking of what I would do to host an inclusive, comfortable play party for all types of people, regardless of sexual orientation, gender, gender expression, ability level, race, class, ect....
The first thing I thought of was that this type of party would have to be for people who wanted to be there. Meaning, we cannot hope to make all play parties inclusive to everyone. Men's only, women's only, Straight only, Gay only, Trans only, People of color only, WHATEVER only parties will always be important parts of the kink communities. We need to celebrate this and honor it. But to do that, we need to have parties that are inclusive. We cannot expect to be welcomed at ALL parties ALL the time, but we also have the right then to have our own parties and to have parties where we can be with people who are different and feel comfortable, safe and perhaps even educate.
The second thing I thought of was that my party would have a different kind of staff person. It would have DMs to enforce the party rules and be responsible for the safety of the dungeon, and it would have Player Support People, who would be able to answer questions regarding protocol and to facilitate people's understanding of eachother.
So what would the rules of my party be??
1) This play space is open to all sexual orientations, genders, gender expressions, races, classes, levels of ability and body types. By entering, you are consenting to sharing the space with others who may not be like you, play like you, look like you, or live like you. By entering, you are agreeing to share in our efforts to create an emotionally and physically safe environment for all party goers.
2) This play party uses the R.A.C.K. (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) model for play. Scenes played out here are expected to be negotiated and safe words established. The house safe word is “Safe Word”. Using this word will bring a DM to your aid.
3) DMs are here to make sure the rules are followed and to help create an environment condusive to play. If you have questions regarding protocol, equipment use, or need help negotiating or learning the “ropes”, please see a Player Support Person or the Party Host.
4) Scenes that are unusual, messy ( Wax, blood, ect..), or that could possibly spill out of a designated play area, or potentially cause concern for other players, should be discussed with the DM before hand. We welcome all types of kink and creative scenes, and the DMs are here to help make sure they are carried out safely for all party goers. Please also see a DM if you plan on using a single tail or breaking skin with a flogger in your scene. Steps will be taken to ensure that blood will not be thrown around. Solely for sanitary reasons, urine and scat play will not be allowed unless areas are set up by the owner of the space specifically for those uses that can be cleaned and contained. If such an area exists, players are expected to shower after such play and before entering back into the general areas.
5) Scene interruptions will NOT be tolerated. If you are watching a scene, absolute silence is required. If you wish to comment on a scene, or talk in any way outside of a scene, please go to the social area. If you are concerned with the play in a scene that you are not involved in, please see a DM who will either check in on the scene, or direct you to a Player Support Person to answer your questions or concerns. If you have not been invited to participate in a scene, you are required to respect the scene space and stay out of it.
6) The decisions of the DM are not negotiable and are expected to be complied with respectfully. If you do not agree with a decision, please see the Party Host. DO NOT argue with or whine to the DM
The first thing I thought of was that this type of party would have to be for people who wanted to be there. Meaning, we cannot hope to make all play parties inclusive to everyone. Men's only, women's only, Straight only, Gay only, Trans only, People of color only, WHATEVER only parties will always be important parts of the kink communities. We need to celebrate this and honor it. But to do that, we need to have parties that are inclusive. We cannot expect to be welcomed at ALL parties ALL the time, but we also have the right then to have our own parties and to have parties where we can be with people who are different and feel comfortable, safe and perhaps even educate.
The second thing I thought of was that my party would have a different kind of staff person. It would have DMs to enforce the party rules and be responsible for the safety of the dungeon, and it would have Player Support People, who would be able to answer questions regarding protocol and to facilitate people's understanding of eachother.
So what would the rules of my party be??
1) This play space is open to all sexual orientations, genders, gender expressions, races, classes, levels of ability and body types. By entering, you are consenting to sharing the space with others who may not be like you, play like you, look like you, or live like you. By entering, you are agreeing to share in our efforts to create an emotionally and physically safe environment for all party goers.
2) This play party uses the R.A.C.K. (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) model for play. Scenes played out here are expected to be negotiated and safe words established. The house safe word is “Safe Word”. Using this word will bring a DM to your aid.
3) DMs are here to make sure the rules are followed and to help create an environment condusive to play. If you have questions regarding protocol, equipment use, or need help negotiating or learning the “ropes”, please see a Player Support Person or the Party Host.
4) Scenes that are unusual, messy ( Wax, blood, ect..), or that could possibly spill out of a designated play area, or potentially cause concern for other players, should be discussed with the DM before hand. We welcome all types of kink and creative scenes, and the DMs are here to help make sure they are carried out safely for all party goers. Please also see a DM if you plan on using a single tail or breaking skin with a flogger in your scene. Steps will be taken to ensure that blood will not be thrown around. Solely for sanitary reasons, urine and scat play will not be allowed unless areas are set up by the owner of the space specifically for those uses that can be cleaned and contained. If such an area exists, players are expected to shower after such play and before entering back into the general areas.
5) Scene interruptions will NOT be tolerated. If you are watching a scene, absolute silence is required. If you wish to comment on a scene, or talk in any way outside of a scene, please go to the social area. If you are concerned with the play in a scene that you are not involved in, please see a DM who will either check in on the scene, or direct you to a Player Support Person to answer your questions or concerns. If you have not been invited to participate in a scene, you are required to respect the scene space and stay out of it.
6) The decisions of the DM are not negotiable and are expected to be complied with respectfully. If you do not agree with a decision, please see the Party Host. DO NOT argue with or whine to the DM
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Date: 2005-08-04 10:52 am (UTC)Seriously, it is the sort for which I have longed. Plus, I'm blackballed from the ones round here because of certain people I used to date so that makes life a little drab.
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Date: 2005-08-04 01:15 pm (UTC)i'm glad #5 makes the audience-non-participation and talking policy clear with absolute silence is required, 'cause, as much as that may be a given in public places, people who play mostly at little home-based parties or with a few people in private might have completely different expectations for what the watchers can and can't do/say. Fisher-Price My First Public Playparty was a little mortifying for many ppl 'cause i talked too audibly in the wings (thinking it was okay bcs i was on a balcony above the scene, and not, like, on eye level w/ it, creating an activity zone and a quietly-chatty zone or some damn thing), and the Top had to look over and tell me w/ his eyes to please shut the fuck up. And even in that particular room, there were other scenes taking place where people didn't care who talked as long as no one was rude about it, so the rules were kind of amorphous.
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Date: 2005-08-04 01:39 pm (UTC)Re: we wanna go!
Date: 2005-08-04 07:40 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-08-04 01:57 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-08-04 06:59 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-08-04 07:20 pm (UTC)As far as I know, there's no cause for harm involved in piss play; yet, a giant risk involved with blood.
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Date: 2005-08-04 10:00 pm (UTC)Thanks for the question. That is the kind of thing that makes RISK AWARE play possible.. We are thinking about what we are doing and the risks involved before, during and after the scene.
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Date: 2005-08-04 10:33 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-08-04 10:37 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-08-04 10:53 pm (UTC)I'll be having a discussion with folks and then all of a sudden an older person who's been here a while steps in and says that's just how it is...or it is just "friendly" or their regional style...then you get absolutely no change in behavior.