Mother's day.
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wheelieterpOn this day we celebrate motherhood. We thank our mothers for all that they sacraficed to raise us into the people we are today. We celebrate the selflessness of the mother. We celebrate the archtype of the mother. We cook meals, do chores and pamper Mom for this special day.
Perhaps I am being cynical. Perhaps I am ruining the spirit of this day, but I can't help but see it as kind of insulting. We cook for her, we do her chores, we pamper her.. For this ONE special day. JUST the idea of that assumes that we expect her to fit this role every other day of the year.
The issue of Motherhood raises such strong and varied emotions in us. Whatever we feel towards our mothers, we feel it full strength. Love, Anger, resentment, whatever. It is ingrained in us how our mothers sacrafice for us. How the bond of motherhood transcends any other bond between two people. Instead of us seeing this as a wonderous miracle, we take it for granted. We judge mothers who do not fit this self sacraficing ideal, who choose to exist for something ALONG with the family, instead of soley for the family.
We need people in this world who buck the norm and make change. We celebrate them. We honor them. As long as they are not mothers who have chosen those paths.
The woman who gave birth to me gave me up for adoption when I was born. I love the woman who raised me. SHE is my mother. I have never felt abandoned, or "Given up" like some of my adopted friends. I think I understand why now. I hope it is because the woman who gave birth to me chose to make change. I hope her path was so strong for her that she chose it over motherhood, knowing I would be safe. Knowing that the world is full of mothers who just need a chance, and lacking in visionaries who choose to take chances.
So from now on, for my mother.. I don't want to ask her if I can "Take over her duties" for a day. I want to ask her how I can help her be everything she wants to be. Because she owes me no sacrafices. And the world may need her more than I.
Perhaps I am being cynical. Perhaps I am ruining the spirit of this day, but I can't help but see it as kind of insulting. We cook for her, we do her chores, we pamper her.. For this ONE special day. JUST the idea of that assumes that we expect her to fit this role every other day of the year.
The issue of Motherhood raises such strong and varied emotions in us. Whatever we feel towards our mothers, we feel it full strength. Love, Anger, resentment, whatever. It is ingrained in us how our mothers sacrafice for us. How the bond of motherhood transcends any other bond between two people. Instead of us seeing this as a wonderous miracle, we take it for granted. We judge mothers who do not fit this self sacraficing ideal, who choose to exist for something ALONG with the family, instead of soley for the family.
We need people in this world who buck the norm and make change. We celebrate them. We honor them. As long as they are not mothers who have chosen those paths.
The woman who gave birth to me gave me up for adoption when I was born. I love the woman who raised me. SHE is my mother. I have never felt abandoned, or "Given up" like some of my adopted friends. I think I understand why now. I hope it is because the woman who gave birth to me chose to make change. I hope her path was so strong for her that she chose it over motherhood, knowing I would be safe. Knowing that the world is full of mothers who just need a chance, and lacking in visionaries who choose to take chances.
So from now on, for my mother.. I don't want to ask her if I can "Take over her duties" for a day. I want to ask her how I can help her be everything she wants to be. Because she owes me no sacrafices. And the world may need her more than I.
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Date: 2005-05-09 06:58 pm (UTC)Re: what about..
Date: 2005-05-09 11:45 pm (UTC)